The number of studies have proved that hatred, resentment and hostility can lead to high blood pressure. Instead, forgiveness can relieve stress and keep the heart healthy.Stress will arise when one's inner hampered by a sense of disappointment or hurt. Forgetting and assume correct an error that causes pain is not always able to handle it, sometimes actually increase the burden on the liver.
Excerpted from the Mayo Clinic on Friday (09/10/2010), forgiveness is a process of peace with yourself. Beginning with the recognition of pain, someone who gives forgiveness would feel more relaxed to accept her condition.
With a more relaxed mental state, one also would avoid the risk of alcohol and drug abuse. The risks were generally faced by the vengeful who need a shortcut to escape from the burden of negative emotions.
Another benefit of forgiveness revealed in a study at the University of Massachusetts, which can lower blood pressure more quickly. Acceleration effect could reach 20 percent in women, while in men the effect is smaller.
Blood pressure, heart rate and muscle contractions usually increase when a person involved in the conflict, so the risk of heart attack and stroke is higher. These symptoms will subside when the conflict ends, or will be faster if both parties mutually conflicting bermaafan.
Meanwhile, to be able to forgive, someone who never felt hurt will pass through 4 stages below.
1. Honestly acknowledge the existence of a sense of hurt or anger in him, as a result of the mistakes of others.
2. Understanding that the situation is not good for him, so it must be changed.
3. Finding new ways to respond to other people who had made him angry or hurt.
4. Understand that people need to be forgiven, as he also wanted to be forgiven if done wrong.
But if there is someone who is hard to forgive, errors may exist on how to convey an apology. According to a study at the University of Valencia, the apology is more effective when delivered through the right ear.
Sensor hearing on the right connect with the left hemisphere, the part associated with the logic. According to researchers, it would lead to an apology was arrested and processed by more rational.
source: (http://www.detikhealth.com/read/2010/09/10/080210/1438681/766/memaafkan-dan-manfaatnya-bagi-kesehatan)